You're Not Lazy. You're Living in Force, And It's Killing Your Results.
"Stop trying to manufacture energy. Start clearing what's blocking it."
Let me ask you something. Why does it feel like you’re working harder than anyone you know, yet the results just don’t show up?
You wake up motivated. By noon, you’re avoiding your own business. By evening, you’re telling yourself the same story you told yourself last Tuesday: “I’ll get it together tomorrow.”
That’s not a discipline problem. That’s not a motivation problem. That’s not even a talent problem.
That is the force field. And until you understand the difference between force and power, you will keep running in place and wondering why the scenery never changes.
The Pain Nobody Talks About: You’re Addicted to Disappointment
Here’s the hard truth I’ve spent 28 years coaching people through and 38 years living myself:
Most people aren’t afraid of failure. They’re addicted to it.
When you’ve been shaped by trauma, whether that’s abandonment, rejection, emotional abuse, or the generational weight your parents handed down without knowing it, your nervous system builds a network. Neurons wire and fire together to form feelings. Those feelings become emotions. And those emotions: anger, frustration, resentment, overwhelm, grief, become the lens through which you see every opportunity in your life.
So what happens when an opportunity shows up? Your body doesn’t say “let’s go.” It says “I’ve seen this before. This ends in disappointment.” And before you’ve made a single call, written a single email, or taken a single step, you’ve already predicted the outcome. You project it, you predict it, and then you get to be right.
And being right feels better than being successful. Until it doesn’t.
The solution: You have to stop confusing your feelings with facts. The story you’re telling yourself about what might happen is not a forecast, it’s a trauma response. Recognize it. Name it. And then choose differently.
Why Grinding Doesn’t Work (And Never Did)
We’ve been conditioned from the time we picked up our first ball; baseball, soccer, basketball, it didn’t matter, to believe that grueling effort equals worthy results. Break your body down. Push through. No pain, no gain.
I was a state track champion in Iowa. I saw Steve Prefontaine run. I understand athletic conditioning from the inside out. And I’m here to tell you: what wins on a track will destroy you in business.
Force requires a counterforce. When you force yourself through your days, grinding through calls you don’t want to make, pushing through content you’re not inspired to create, muscling through relationships that feel like obligation, you are creating an opponent. And that opponent is you.
The body breaks down. Focus dissolves. Procrastination sets in. You start finding reasons to fail so you can say, “See? This always happens to me.”
That’s not weakness. That’s physics. Force cannot sustain itself without opposition.
The solution: Build a routine so aligned with your purpose that it doesn’t feel like work. When I travel internationally, Sydney to Perth, I walk 20 minutes in an airport with a stopwatch and do 100 push-ups in a corner. No gym. No performance. Just a system I can duplicate anywhere in the world. That’s power. It’s quiet. It’s consistent. And it compounds.
Find your version of that. Not the version that impresses people. The version you can actually repeat.
The Real Difference Between Power and Force
In 1996, Dr. David Hawkins wrote one of the greatest books ever put on paper: Power vs. Force. I’ve read the chapter called “The Source of Power” more times than I can count.
Here’s what it comes down to:
Force needs a winner and a loser. It creates enemies. It pushes against something. It’s exhausting because it can never rest, the moment the pressure stops, the whole structure collapses.
Power stands alone. It doesn’t need opposition. It doesn’t need to prove anything. Power is ease. It’s effortless. It flows.
When you are in your power, you walk into a room and people feel you. Not because you’re performing confidence, but because you’re not performing anything. That’s what charisma actually is. It’s not loud. It’s not flashy. It’s the quiet certainty of someone who has stopped fighting themselves.
People want to buy from that person. They want to join that person. They’ll pull over to the side of the road just to talk to that person.
The solution: Stop trying to manufacture energy. Start clearing what’s blocking it. Anxiety, fear, and doubt are not character flaws, they are unresolved feelings that have never been given a place to land. When you breathe into those feelings, release them, and let them go, your natural power resurfaces. It was always there.
When Your Belief Is Low, Everything Becomes an Excuse
I’ve watched brilliant people fail for one reason: they didn’t believe they deserved to win.
Not because they lacked talent. Not because the market wasn’t there. But because deep in the neurological network of their conditioning, success felt unsafe. And so they found, unconsciously, masterfully, every possible way to self-sabotage before anyone else could disappoint them first.
Low belief creates avoidance. Avoidance looks like being busy. Being busy feels productive. And before you know it, you’ve spent six months getting ready to get ready.
High belief produces results in a relaxed body. You finish your days out. You feel inspired by what you’re doing and who you’re becoming. You breathe. You release. You let go. And the letting go becomes a skill, and then a flow state, and then prosperity.
The solution: Belief isn’t built through affirmations. It’s built through small, consistent actions that prove to your nervous system that you are safe to succeed. One completed task. One kept promise to yourself. One day where you didn’t run from discomfort. Stack those days. Your certainty will follow.
Your Power Was Never the Problem
If you’ve read this far, you already know this isn’t about tactics. It’s not about scripts or funnels or frameworks.
It’s about the version of you that exists beneath the doubt. The version that doesn’t have to force anything because it’s already enough. The version that moves through life and business with ease, not because everything is perfect, but because you’ve stopped making yourself the enemy.
That version of you is your power. And it’s been waiting the whole time.
Breathe. Release. Let go. In a relaxed body.
Jeffery Combs is the President and Founder of Golden Mastermind Seminars, Inc. With 38 years in sobriety and 28 years of coaching, he helps high-performers release trauma, step out of force, and produce results from a place of authentic power.